HOW MANY PARTS DOES THE A.C.T. HAVE?
What is the A.C.T.? If you do not know the answer to this, read the previous blog. It is a must you know it. If you are a high school student, it is the most important test you will ever take! If you are a parent, all your money is at stake with how well your child does. Find out what the A.C.T. is and why your child NEEDS personal, private tutoring for it immediately!
HOW MANY PARTS DOES THE A.C.T. HAVE? The A.C.T. has 5 parts. What are they?
CONDERIDGE SMITH, author on A.C.T. books on amazon.com and travelling A.C.T. expert, coach & tutor
ARE YOU JEALOUS OF SOMEONE? Is there someone you look at and say, “How does he do it?” “How does she accomplish that much”? “WHERE DO THEY GET ALL THE TIME?”
Jealousy is not the ultimately intelligent response. Realizing that that person gets only the same amount of time as you is. Yes, the self-made billionaire and the bum on the street each gets just 24 hours a day. WE ALL GET TE SAME AMOUNT OF TIME IN A DAY.
Knowing this, what are you going to do? How are you going to structure your time differently to maximize accomplishment? How are you going to think differently? How are you going to speak differently/ How are you going to behave differently? How are you goint to treat yourself, your opportunities, and other people differently?
Start by praying. Moses asked God, “So teach us to number our days so that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom” (PSALM 90:12).
Start there: start with prayer. Ask God to teach you how to use your limited time. FOR WE ALL GET THE SAME AMOUNT OF TIME EACH DAY. What we need is WISDOM from God for using it best.
CONDERIDGE SMITH (Yale, NYU), author on life-improving literature via amazon.com
ARE YOU READY FOR THE A.C.T.?
WHAT IS THE A.C.T.? The A.C.T. is the most important test of your life! The A.C.T. is the make or break test that decides what college you attend and how much it will costs you to attend it. Is that important? You bet it is! Let me put it in very clear perspective:
Student 1 takes the A.C.T. This student takes it very seriously. This student takes the scientifically proven best way to score high as possible, i.e. getting a personal tutor who is the best qualified in the 3 attributes of a tutor that matters most—education, experience, and effectiveness. This student, student 1, scored 34, goes to Yale free, graduates with no debt and $100,000 earned in scholarships and work, and gets a house, marriage, and car—still keeping $70,000.
What about student 2? Student 2 takes the A.C.T. as a joke. This student does not get the best personal tutor. This students scores a 14, the average, and gets $0 in help from the 1 school that let the student in. This student barely graduates, has $128,793 in debt, pays $5,641.67 in student loan repayment, lives with mom, can’t afford a spouse, and struggles to make it with 3 jobs.
WHICH DO YOU CHOOSE TO BE?
CONDERIDGE SMITH (NYU, Yale), international traveling A.C.T. expert, tutor, and author of THE A.C.T. INTRODUCED and other A.C.T. books on amazon.com
Small minds think either/or. That is, small minds always think in terms of competition, not collaboration; choice, not combination. So, when a small mind is offered a job, they automatically begin to think, “Should I take a job with a big salary and no benefits, or a job with a small salary and big befits?”
WHAT STUPIDITY! Who says you can’t have both. You can! AND it starts with a shift in your thinking.
Therefore, start thinking like big minds. Start thinking BOTH. Think of jobs with BOTH great salaries and great benefits. THINK of marriages with BOTH spouses happy!!!!!!!! Think of businesses with BOTH owners AND employees, BOTH salespeople AND customers HAPPY.
TODAY SHIFT YOUR THINKING TO BOTH/AND. MAKE THIS YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENT OF THE DAY.
CONDERIDGE SMITH, author on amazon.com
2.) BE OPEN. Are you willing to make change? Are you willing to work on you?
Honestly, this is the ONLY starting point. Trying to work on your spouse first or without working on yourself is a recipe for disaster, insult, and heartache. Start by being open to change, changing yourself!
Case Study: A man I counseled had an anger problem. His wife retorted by nagging him all the time. This made him angrier. So the cycle continued.
They met with me. The wife decided to stop complaining and simply remain silent. Her silence diffused the man. Like Muhammad Ali, she let the opponent punch himself out. Then, he was too tired to be angry. THE CYCLE WAS BROKEN.
DO YOU WANT TO MEND YOUR MARRIAGE? Start by being open to changing yourself.
CONDERIDGE SMITH (Yale ’00), author of THERE IS HOPE e-book on amazon.com
HOW CAN YOU MEND YOUR MARRIAGE?
1. BE HONEST. Is there something wrong? Be honest. Don’t shout; speak. Then write.
Write a list, starting with the things that are wrong with you. Jesus asked, “How can you take the toothpick out of someone else’s eye and you have a log in your own?” Start with yourself. What is wrong with you as a spouse? How can you BE a better person? How does your very nature need to change? How can your words improve? How can your actions be better? Write your list about yourself.
Only when this list is exhaustive, including your sins and mistakes, then move on to your spouse. Be honest. Without confession there is no salvation. To get right you must first admit that you are wrong and identify exactly what the problems with you and your spouse are.
Too many times we fault our spouse over things we have never expressed are wrong. Even worst, many items we blame our spouse for issues which are really our own and have nothing directly to do with our spouse. For example, imagine a wife who was raised rich. Her mother never worked. She was never taught to work as a child. She falls in love with a man, but the man she loves does not make the same amount of money her father did. She lashes out and calls him no good! A marriage mess ensues!
What could be done differently?
- Did she ever express to the man she loves so much that she expected him to pay for her in full? MONEY MUST BE DISCUSSED BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED.
- She could work. after all, she is an adult. She wants a more expensive lifestyle. So work! There is nothing wrong with a woman working.
- They could cast a vision of marriage. They could clearly define AND WRITE what their expectations are. They could edit it until they get it to a point that both wholeheartedly agree on.
- They should love each other, forgive each other, and forge forward, each assessing their past and backgrounds, dealing with their issues for the betterment of the marriage.
Stay tuned for part 2. Tell a friends. Until then, go to amazon.com and download life-changing literature by CONDERIDGE SMITH. Start by downloading THERE IS HOPE.
CONDERIDGE SMITH, M.Div. (Yale’00), author of THERE IS HOPE e-book on amazon.com
p.s. Please go to amazon.com and download a bonus book SHARON JONES. The title is CAN YOUR MARRIAGE BE HEALED? Download THERE IS HOPE by Conderidge Smith and CAN YOUR MARRIAGE BE HEALED? by Sharon Jones now! Isn’t your marriage worth it? YES!
p.p.s. I love you, and I am praying for you. Pray for me, too.
WHAT IS YOUR DAILY AGENDA? What do you do each day? In fact, what do you even plan to do with each day? What are the roots and routines of your day?
Why are these questions important? Because what you do each day constitutes your life. The roots of daily disciplines, daily activities produce the fruit that is eventually called your life.
Be sure—most things are NOT accomplished in a day. Most things take days. Therefore, success is an effect of cumulative effort, the effort of days doing the same thing the right way to get the desired result. What are you doing with your days?
YOUR LIFE WILL TELL THE STORY! Let it be a good one—one that is storied, accomplished, pride-inducing. Let it be a good one. Have something to show for your life by working on it and the projects of purpose every single day. Success is in the daily routine!
CONDERIDGE SMITH (Yale’00), author of e-book GEMS FROM GENESIS on amazon.com